Welcome to Part 2 of my Step-by-Step Series on how to find authentic happiness. In Part 1, I gave you a glimpse of my history, my credentials, and my motivation for trying to share my formula for finding authentic happiness.
In this part, I will give you a clear idea of what authentic happiness is. And I will give you the BEST and QUICKEST way to find it.
So let's get on with finding authentic happiness
So, what is happiness? Happiness is a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joyfulness and pleasure.
What is authentic happiness? It is that kind of happiness that is not dependent on anything but you, and ultimately God.
How does one become authentically happy? Well, that is a really long topic to discuss. Especially since nobody ever taught us, when we were children, how to be happy. And when we went to school, there were never any classes on "How to be happy." Also now entire books have been written about it, so you can imagine how long this topic is.
But there is a very quick way to experiencing authentic happiness. Anybody can become happy simply by LOVING. But isn't that too simple? Yes, indeed, it is as simple as that. But as simple as it is, it is not that easy.
Say that again? Nah, you can read that line again. Just read on, and you'll see what I mean.
What I am about to say has something to do with my faith. But I am inviting my non-Christian readers to read on and see what I am trying to say.
Let us consider what St. John said in order to better understand why by simply loving, anyone can experience happiness. "He who lives in love, lives in God, and God lives in Him." This is no ordinary phrase. This is a DIVINE REVELATION. That means that there is no human being who could have possibly discovered this. For who can know what is in the mind of God?
What does this Divine Revelation have to do with finding authentic happiness? Well, since we all know that, among other things, that God is PERFECTLY happy, then if we live in love, and if God lives in us, doesn't it LOGICALLY follow that we share in His happiness, or that we become happy?
Have you noticed that when you are in love, everything just seems to look wonderful, and you feel happy? Whenever you express love for anybody, for yourself, or even for anything, don't you feel happy? You know, by experience, that the answer to these questions is YES.
Not yet convinced? Okay, do this little exercise. Say ANY OR ALL OF THESE to yourself, "Oh I just love myself, my life, the people around me, the trees, the leaves, the grass, the flowers, the sky, the heat or the coolness of the weather, the sounds I hear, etc.".
Whether you express your love for one, a few, or all that you see, hear, and all that you can think of, the important thing is that YOU HAVE TO REALLY FEEL THAT LOVE FLOWING FROM YOU to whatever or whoever it is you are sending your love to. Notice how you feel. Tell me if that little exercise didn't make you experience even the slightest happiness. Simple? YES! Easy? NO!
You see, we are not used to expressing love. Due mainly to our fallen human nature, to social conditioning, and to many other factors, expressing love is hardly a habit that we normally have. Instead, we have the habit of expressing emotions that are based in fear, or even fear itself.
So how do you establish a habit of loving? It's not a big secret. PRACTICE it as often as you can. Here, I must admit I am a bit over-simplifying. For we have been conditioned to be so self-centered, and so critical of both ourselves and of others, that expressing love for everything is not as easy as you would like it to be.
You see, all of us have beliefs and convictions in our mind, most of which are unconscious, that prevent us from expressing love.
For example, you are looking at a crowd, and you practice this exercise of expressing love for all the people in that crowd. But suddenly, you recognize somebody whom you do not like. Is it easy for you to continue loving all, without exceptions? I doubt it.
Or, for example you are just driving around, and expressing love to everything that you see, saying to yourself something like, "Oohh, I just love life at it is, etc., etc." Then you get stuck in heavy traffic. Can you still continue to LOVE LIFE as it is?" Or does your emotion suddenly turn into something like frustration?
Observe how your emotions shift from positive to negative, to positive again, so on and so forth, in any given day. Journal all your emotions as they shift from one kind of emotion to another. And write each emotion, big and small, and the REASONS that triggered your experience of each one. You'll notice how plentiful they are, just in one day. By the way, keep those journal notes. You will be needing them soon.
Does your emotional state have to be that unstable? No, it doesn't have to be that way at all. But only if you MAKE A COMMITMENT to do the work that will enable you to have MASTERY over your emotions. Don't worry, it is not hard work.
The method that I discovered, after over 20 years of researching, has worked for me. And I believe it will work for you too. Hey, you may have problems with being consistently happy, but unlike me, you didn't have to work against depression for over 20 years.
But, again, it will only work if you have a strong desire to want authentic happiness. I want you to finally admit to yourself that chasing after worldly things and pleasures can never give you the authentic happiness that I know you deeply desire.
Before you misunderstand me, I am not asking you to stop enjoying the world's pleasures -- although it would be wise to practice moderation. What I want is for you to stop believing that they will give you authentic happiness.
But if you have read this far, chances are you are well aware of the fact that external events and things can only MAKE YOU COMFORTABLE, excited, or even happy. But only for a while. 
Then, you will have to buy something else, or find another fun activity, in order to experience the "happiness" that you are looking for. In the process, you get more and more frustrated. Not to forget that you will have to work harder in order to afford all the fun activities and shopping spree.
It becomes really tiresome and even meaningless, after a while.
So, if you want to be able to take control, and, even eventually have mastery of your emotions, then read Part 3: What are Beliefs.
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